Fear of Interpretation

People can be insecure or not have a lot of self-confidence, worry about their relationships - whether its at work, with friends or with your significant other. But where does all this stem from? Surely not all of us who second guess ourselves can be classified as having low self-confidence. And even those who do, why do they feel that way?

It's because we fear how others will interpret our words and our actions.

If we didn't have this fear and didn't care what others thought - our confidence would be through the roof because nobodies opinion but your own would really matter. But so many people put such uneccesary weight or merit to how others will perceive us. Whether this happens once in a while or all the time. And if this fear is more constant, it causes us to change who we are and create dobut in ourselves.

Such a cyclical cycle! Think about it.

If we feel we can't be who we truely are based on how we want to be perceived, we change. Once we change we realize that his altered version of ourselves is more accepted - meaning our true selves aren't good enough, which creates low self confidence.

Perception is a variable! Why would you change who you are based on someting that isn't relative to anything? It's not logical, its skewed!

Value your own opinion of yourself first.

Know that you are a good person.
Know that you have a captivative personality.
Realize your own strengths.

Once you can focus on these, how others perceive you will never cross your mind. Which will build not only your confidence but also self-knowledge - knowing better who you actually are as a person, and also better and more genuine relationships.

Don't fear others perception. Believe in yourself enough that what others* think doesn't control or over rule who you are.

*others including the media & whats considered "socially accepted"

scared

i can actually now feel myself falling for him. before when i knew he was more into me then i was into him, i felt somewhat safe and in control. and now i feel like the tables are slowly turning and its scaring the shit outta me.

all thought

i just realized that i'm all thought. you know how people always say "you can talk the talk but can't walk the walk". so with me, i think the thought...which translates into walking the walk.

talking the talk means that you're full of hot air, and you say you're going to do something but when it comes down to it, you can't or you won't. but if you think the thought and continually think the thought...you will do it.

you by-pass the shit talking and go straight from thought to action.

think the thought. have it manifest in your mind. it empowers you to walk the walk.